Men And Women Are Different

Summary

God created two sexes, men and women. There are thousands of similarities and differences. There are differences from woman to woman and from man to man. Realizing our similarities and differences and applying this knowledge to our relationships can help make a strong relationship even stronger. Thank you God for these differences.

Can You Change Your Partner?

People in interpersonal relationships usually have strong expectations that their partner will become themselves: they will show the same attitudes, values, views, and behaviors. However, we know that unless you are motivated, you will not change your partner's attitude and behavior. They are even less likely to change their basic gender characteristics.  I remember my aunt telling that she always married men that should could mold into they husband she wanted. She did this for five marriages. Obviously her molding did not work.

There Are Fundamental Differences Between Men And women

There are of course thousands of ways that men and women are different. There are a lot of ways we are different.  Therefore, it is very important to learn about the fundamental gender differences that exist between men and women, and to accept the fact that there are differences, they are real and will not go anywhere. This way, you can learn to use differences as a way to enrich your relationship, not harm it.

Let's look at the evidence from a wide variety of walks of life. Note that these results are generalizations and summaries that apply to most men and women, but not all men or all women.  Yes the plumbing is different. Yes, hair texture is different. But the are all humans and we all deserve the same rights in life.  

Physiological Differences 

The right hemisphere in girls develops faster than in boys - it leads to speech, vocabulary, pronunciation, reads earlier, remembers better. Boys develop the left side faster than girls: visual-spatial-logical skills, perception skills, best in math, problem solving, construction and solving puzzles. Girls are more interested in facial toys than boys; play more with stuffed toys and dolls; guys are attracted to blocks or anything that can be manipulated.

Women use both hemispheres of the brain; the corpus callosum is more common in women. The corpus callosum is a large bundle of more than 200 million myelinated nerve fibers that connect the two brain hemispheres, permitting communication between the right and left sides of the brain. Abnormalities within the corpus callosum have been identified in maltreated children.

Social Conditioning

Men and women speak louder to boys than girls; they are softer and more "cooing" to girls. Boys are rarely told that they are cute, cute dolls; children are told that I am a pumpkin head or "hey big boy." The boys treated each other physically and harder than the girls, they jumped more. More girls are stroked and stroked than boys.

Before the age of two, mothers talk and look at their daughters more often than at their sons, and also look them in the eyes more often. Mothers show a wider range of emotional responses to girls than to boys. When girls showed anger, there was more disapproval on the faces of the mothers than when boys showed anger.

This can affect why girls grow up to be more smiling, sociable, and more capable of interpreting emotions than boys. Fathers use "team terms" more often with boys than with girls; and more than the mother was given.

Development Differences Between Boys and Girls

Nursery rhymes, books, and cartoons perpetuate stereotypes, often promoting an unhappy girl, a sloppy housewife, a helpless old man, a sexy heroine, and an unconscious cheerleader.

Girls show more affection than boys. Boys cope with more aggressive antisocial behavior at school and at home than girls. Girls playing tomboy are accepted; boys who behave like girls are severely scolded (“don't cry”, “don't be a sissy”).

Girls tend to talk about other people; secrets of friendship; and school, wants and needs. Children talk about things and activities. What do they do and who is the best in their field. Teenage girls talk about boys, clothes, and weight. Teens talk about sports, the mechanics, and the function of things.

When women talk about relationships, people, diet, dress, appearance, this leads to adulthood. Men talk about sports, work, money, cars, news, politics, and the mechanics of things.

Achieve your goals, demonstrate your competence and self-confidence. To feel good, men must pursue their goals on their own. For men, acting alone is a symbol of efficiency, strength and competence. In general, men are more interested in objects and things than people and feelings.

Men rarely talk about their problems unless they seek advice from an “expert”; Asking for help when you can do something on your own is a sign of weakness. Men are more aggressive than women; more militant and territorial. Men's self-esteem is more about career. Men hate asking for information because it shows that they have failed.

Women value love, companionship, beauty, and relationships. A woman's self-awareness is determined by her feelings and the quality of her relationship. They spend a lot of time supporting, feeding and helping each other. They experience satisfaction through exchanges and relationships. Self-expression in clothes and feelings is very important. Talking, sharing and communicating are ways women feel good. For women, providing help is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength; this is a concern for support. Women are very concerned about physical attractiveness; making changes in this area can be as difficult for a woman as changing a man's financial situation. When men worry about work or money, women take it as a rejection.

Men are more logical, analytical, rational. Women are more intuitive, holistic, creative and integrative. Men have a hard time relating to their feelings and may feel more threatened by expressing their feelings in their presence. This may cause them to react by retreating or attempting to control the situation through displays of control and / or power. Men are actually more vulnerable than women, rely more on interpersonal relationships, and are more disappointed with the ending because they have fewer friends and sources of emotional support. Men can tolerate anger more easily than women.

Compared with men, women are exposed to a much wider range of feelings, and the intensity of these feelings is usually much higher among women than men. Therefore, many men think that women's feelings change quickly; men may find this unreasonable and difficult to understand.

Men tend to be more practical in solving problems; women pay attention to both aesthetics and function. Women tend to be more sensitive to sounds and smells than men; women, therefore, pay more attention to "atmosphere."

Men complain more often than women: women are always trying to change them. The most common complaint of women against men is that men do not listen. Women want empathy, but men usually come up with solutions. When a woman tries to change, improve, fix, or advise a man, men feel that they are being told that they are incompetent or do not know how to do something, or that they cannot do something on their own.

Men often feel responsible or guilty for women’s problems. Men always think that women need advice and solutions to problems, which is the best way to help and express love; women often just want to be sincerely heard. Housework: Men avoid it, try to get others to do it at all costs, and feel discouraged.

For women, cleaning the house is a manifestation of a warm and familiar nest. Men and women have different thresholds for cleanliness and dirt.

Men often try to change a woman's mood when she is upset by offering solutions to her problems, which she interprets as devaluing and devaluing her feelings. Women try to change men's behavior by offering unwanted advice and criticism and becoming a home improvement committee. When a woman is angry, this is not the time to come up with solutions, although this may be appropriate in the future when she calms down. A man appreciates advice and criticism when asked. Men want to improve when they feel they are being approached as a solution to a problem, not as the problem itself.

Men have enormous needs for status and independence (emphasis on the separate and the dissimilar); women need intimacy and connection (emphasis on loved ones and equals). Women need care, understanding, respect, dedication, recognition and confidence. Women are motivated when they feel special or loved. Men need to receive trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval and support. Men are motivated when they feel needed.

A person’s deepest fear is that he is not good enough or competent enough, even if he can never express it. There are important and significant differences between men and women. The difference is different, not better or worse. Don't judge the difference. Don't try to change the difference. Don't try to let them go. There are individual differences; we all have some of these qualities. In order to live in harmony, you must accept, expect and respect these differences. When talking about important things, expressing concerns and concerns, and resolving conflicts, it’s important to keep these differences in mind.

Here are a few of the more obvious differences:

1. Women love longer
2. Men and pee standing up
3. Men do not have babies
4. Men don’t have periods
5. Men have thicker hair
6. On average men have more muscle mass.
7. The second longest finger for most women is next their thumb- the index finger. But men are the opposite. They usually have ringer fingers- those next their pinkie finger-that are longer than their index fingers.
8. During exercise, women’s primary fuel is fat. For men, it’s carbohydrates.
9. Men have pronounced Adam’s apples. That’s because they have large voice boxes that make the surrounding cartilage stick out more.

I for one am glad there are differences between men and women. There are a lot more than I listed above. When I cuddle with my wife of 38 years I am glad she is a woman and I am a man. My final comments –

1. Live and let live
2. Variety is the spice of life
3. Love is blind.